Relationships are an important part of all our lives. Whether romantic or platonic, our connections with our nearest and dearest can bring us joy, meaning, and bonds like nothing else.

But in part because they mean so much to us, relationships can be stressful.

Some level of conflict in a friendship or romantic relationship is normal; it can even be a healthy way to grow and connect by developing good communication skills and build trust. Common relationship problems can also lead to symptoms of mental health conditions such as anxiety or depression.  In some cases, relationship dynamics can escalate into emotional and/or physical abuse. When relationship problems become extreme or frequent, they often interfere with healthy behavior and everyday life.

What are the different types of relationship issues?

Though relationship issues come in countless forms, below are some examples of the most common kinds. Most of these could occur in both romantic and platonic relationships:

• Trust issues: You might wonder whether your partner is telling you the truth about your relationship or other aspects of life.
• Issues around attention and priorities: Relationship conflict often comes up around attention and priorities: how you spend your time,  what’s on your mind, and, crucially, where the other person fits into all of that.
• Household issues: Issues around chores and use of shared space are common.
• Comunication issues: You don’t feel heard; you wonder whether the other person understands you; you struggle to say what you mean. These are all forms of communication issues, a common setback in many relationships.
• Money issues: Some studies  list arguments about finances as the top source of stress in intimate relationships.
• Issues relating to major life changes: Whether you’re moving, changing jobs, having a new baby, or making any other big life change, major life transitions could lead to relationship stress.
• Issues around sex and intimacy: Differing sex drives and questions around attraction and sexual satisfaction are just a few of the factors that might lead to relationship issues.
• Violence, abuse, and gaslighting: When any relationship issue turns into emotional or physical violence or intimidation from one or both partners, the relationship can be considered abusive. Abuse is usually far more dangerous and stressful than the other relationship issues described here.